Transformative Friendships shares seven simple questions that will help you be intentional with your relationships and offers a springboard to deepening and strengthening friendships that will enrich your life.
Building meaningful friendships is not as easy as we wish it was. A culture that is lonelier and more disconnected than ever proves how hard it can be. In Transformative Friendships, counselor Brad Hambrick encourages readers to develop new rhythms, habits, and lifestyles that will shape and grow their relationships, both with casual acquaintances and closer friends.
The goal is not to develop perfect friendships, but rather learn how to cultivate deep connections that grow steadily over time through conversations based on simple questions and common interactions. Hambrick's biblical vision for friendship calls Christians to engage with one another in the transformational way God intended.
"Here in his latest work, Brad Hambrick encourages us to build simple and meaningful friendships in a way that feels neither programmed nor painful. He offers a simple framework of questions that can be extrapolated in a million different ways but ultimately leads you toward a deeper, richer sense of knowing one another. I'm thrilled that what I get to experience regularly in my friendship with Brad is now yours to share through this enriching and engaging book."
Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director, Fieldstone Counseling
"What Brad offers to us in these pages is a timeless framework for nourishing personal relationships. If you're looking for a practical guide for cultivating friendships with wisdom and intention, this helpful book is it!"
Christine M. Chappell, Author of Midnight Mercies: Walking with God through Depression in Motherhood; Hope + Help Podcast host, Institute of Biblical Counseling & Discipleship; certified biblical counselor
"In a trying time, pastors and counselors cannot walk as closely with you as a true friend can. That's why Transformative Friendships is such a necessary resource for believers today. Regular engagement in Brad Hambrick's seven questions will produce depth in any relationship and build a foundation for friendships that traverse every season of life."
David Talbert, Small Groups Pastor, The Summit Church, Durham, NC
"What makes friendship good? How can we enlarge our care for one another? As a skilled physician of the soul, Brad Hambrick combines his rich understanding of Scripture with his genuine curiosity about people and then beautifully articulates this doctrine of transformational friendship. Leave it to Brad to carefully and methodically communicate a message that the body of Christ is so desperate to hear."
Ann Maree Goudzwaard, Executive Director, Help[H]er
"In a world of inch-deep and mile-wide relationships, there seems to be a gap between people's desire for rich friendships and the lack of depth in their current relationships. This book is not only a gospel-saturated reflection of that pursuit but a tangible roadmap for helping you get there. A timely resource that I think all church leaders should have on their shelves."
Jason Gaston, Executive Pastor of Next Gen, Biltmore Church, Arden, NC
"Living in a time when loneliness and isolation are reaching epidemic proportions, Transformative Friendships tells a better story and points to a better way. Offering rich insights aimed at building lasting friendships, Brad Hambrick winsomely hands the reader seven 'simple and meaningful' questions to ask that will undoubtedly deepen any relationship. This book is immensely practical and desperately needed."
Will Toburen, Lead Pastor, Calvary Baptist Church, Winston-Salem, NC
Have you ever wished that your friendships were deeper? That you were able to share more honestly with each other, both the joys and the challenges that you each face?Hambrick provides a simple yet effective guide to deeper friendships - through the use of seven questions: What’s your story? What’s good? Hard? Bad? Fun? Stuck? Next? Each is broken down further into five depths of growth. The breadth of questions and the various depths to which they are explored is quite extensive. It is designed for mutual friendships, where both are committed to deepening the relationship. He also cautions - not every friendship will move to the deepest level. It’s appropriate to have numerous friends, all at different levels. There is no overarching theological framework of friendship and how it could look. It assumes you are a Christian who wants to deepen your friendships with other Christians and dives in at that point. This keeps the book short (150 pages) and easy to read, with each mini chapter being only about 3 pages. Of course, enacting it will take much longer with considerably more effort! Hambrick’s goal however is to produce friendships “that enrich our lives a little more each day”. You could implement it by sharing a bit more and allowing space for a friend them to do the same, or you could read it with a friend and intentionally plan to utilise it together. However you use it, this book will give lots of prompts and encouragements to invest in good, supportive, honest friendships.
Excellent little book. There is a lot here I would like to come back and revisit as I look to deepen friendships. The questions are great suggestions for meaningful conversations that can lead to growth and change. My only confusion, and this was very small, is that sometimes the questions were to be asked of a friend while others are to be asked of yourself. A little explanation of that would have helped me track a bit better.
