Tying Their Shoes: A Christ-Centered Approach to Preparing for Parenting

by Rob Green and Stephanie Green

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Through a gospel-centered approach to parenting, Tying Their Shoes by Rob and Stephanie Green lays the foundation for expecting parents to welcome a new addition into their home in light of the gospel. First-time, soon-to-be parents and moms and dads expecting an additional child will find Christ-centered hope, practical advice, and encouragement toward parental unity in this invaluable resource.

Authors Rob and Stephanie Green know a baby brings many wonderful changes for both biological and adoptive parents. While other parenting resources help expectant parents prepare for the physical and emotional work of child-rearing, the Greens address the all-important spiritual foundation needed for parenting. They help parents understand and apply the gospel—the best resource to ground couples in their relationships with the Lord, with each other, and with their children. 

The challenges of parenting do bring stress, but this book guides expectant moms and dads to turn toward the Lord with all of the strains of this new season of life. Sharing from both a mother's and father's perspective, Rob and Stephanie Green dive into the goal of parenting, the blessings of parenting, pregnancy and labor, marital intimacy, biblical discipline, and other practical realities of first-time parents. 

Above all else, Rob and Stephanie Green equip soon-to-be parents to create a gospel-centered home and mind-set, lovingly pointing couples to our Father who cares for his children and is with them every step of the way.

Author

Robert E. Green MDiv, PhD, is the pastor of counseling and seminary ministries at Faith Church, Lafayette, Indiana. Rob wrote Tying the Knot and several smaller works on marriage and family issues. Rob and his wife, Stephanie, have three children.
Stephanie E. Green, RN, is a homemaker and heavily involved in mentoring women in Faith Church, Lafayette, Indiana. She is the author of minibook, Miscarriage: You Are Not Alone and worked as a registered nurse for over a decade primarily in the newborn nursery and postpartum units. Stephanie and her husband, Rob, have three children.

Endorsements

“Rob and Stephanie have written a book on the preparation and process of early parenthood that balances out the biblical and practical eminently well. With practical advice flowing out of their biblical convictions, they neither prescribe nor mandate, but offer sage advice for a time in life when most couples desperately need it. This will now replace diapers as my go-to gift for newly expectant parents!”

Jonathan Holmes, Pastor of Counseling, Parkside Church; executive director, Fieldstone Counseling

“As a friend, I’ve had the privilege of watching the Greens’ children thrive under their care. I’ve also seen the impact of their first book, Tying the Knot, as we use it to prepare couples in our church for marriage. This new volume is filled with the same kind of wisdom, grace, and focus on Christ that characterized their first book, so I expect to see God use this just as greatly for his glory.”

Brad Bigney, Pastor of Grace Fellowship; ACBC certified counselor; conference speaker; author of Gospel Treason: Betraying the Gospel with Hidden Idols

Tying Their Shoes, by Rob and Stephanie Green, offers exactly what the subtitle suggests. It is a Christ-centered approach to preparing for parenting. Don’t take that subtitle promise lightly. Some books on parenting provide a broad, Christ-centered approach, but they never address the nitty-gritty details of real-life parenting. Other parenting books talk about a ton of details, but you wonder where the gospel makes a foundational impact. In Tying Their Shoes, Rob and Stephanie provide that rare balance: a parenting book that relates gospel reality to daily reality. Tying Their Shoes will be my go-to book to recommend to young parents, just as Tying the Knot has been the number one book I recommend to engaged couples.”

Bob Kellemen, Vice President and Academic Dean, Faith Bible Seminary; author of Raising Kids in the Way of Grace

“I find this book to be very helpful for couples who really want to get it right as it relates to parenting from a biblical perspective with the right heart attitude. Rob has a unique way of doing exegesis and exposition so that it connects to the heart of individuals and the issues that need to be addressed. The stories and illustrations are heartfelt and very insightful. This book will help a lot of families.”

Nicolas Ellen, Senior Professor of Biblical Counseling, the College of Biblical Studies; senior pastor, Community of Faith Bible Church

 “What a book! Rob and Stephanie engagingly apply God’s Word to the minute details of pregnancy, labor and delivery, raising babies, marital adjustments, and more. My wife, Lauren, and I commend it as a gospel-driven, hope-giving, refreshingly transparent (we loved their humble admissions of failure), and surprisingly practical biblical guide for every expectant or new parent—and all of us who love them (and are looking for gift ideas).”

Robert D. Jones, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; author of Pursuing Peace and Uprooting Anger

“I would have loved to read this book with my wife prior to the birth of our first child. It’s full of practical and wise advice from a godly couple.”

Andy Naselli, Associate Professor of New Testament and Theology, Bethlehem College & Seminary; elder, Bethlehem Baptist Church

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Both practical and actionable

Tying Their Shoes is just want it mentioned. The authors strive to share a christ center approach to parenting and might I add not forgetting your spouse.
In addition to the true parenting advice you may be searching for; they discuss keeping your marriage healthy, the dad's involvement and 'me time'. You both need God honored rest; don't feel guilty about that.
The mentor section in the back is a helpful addition.
Posted by Donna Feyen on 10th Jun 2019

Not the same-old-same christ-centered parenting book!

Have you ever heard a parent comment on how they were unsure how to approach parenting? They are then inundated with tons of well-meant information that is not very practical. Think here about the “sleep when the baby sleeps” type of advice. The idea is great but in reality, it just doesn’t work that way. At least it didn’t for me.

Tying Their Shoes is different. It is a thoughtful, Christ-centered approach to parenting as a whole, knowing that parenting is the greatest of all stewardship opportunities God gives. Realizing that children are images of the living God should influence each aspect of parenting. The full title of this book is Tying Their Shoes: A Christ-Centered Approach to Preparing for Parenting. It is written by Rob and Stephanie Green, who have three children of their own.

The introduction is just that – introducing the reader to the Greens and their family and introducing what they are trying to accomplish with this book for parents. They recognize that the world is completely different when a child enters the family. “In fact, it is earthshaking. Two people who are used to caring for themselves bring home a little baby who requires constant care. . . It is a joyful, terrifying, exciting, and intimidating experience.” Recognizing how God grace is going to help them through each moment is what most parents struggle with the most and that is the hope of this book – to see how God walks with parents through their parenting little souls.

First up – know your identity. Knowing who you are and how all the relationships you are part of work together can make adding a child to the mix easier. But not everyone knows this. Identity is how we think about ourselves and so it is important for this to be solid. Where is your identity found? The answer should be in Christ. This chapter helps strengthen that understanding if you have it already and if it is one you struggle with, there are Bible verses to help you understand God’s love for you and His place in your life.

Next the reader is brought through a chapter designed to help you prioritize your marriage. Without this priority in place, the child can easily use up a lot of your time, leaving you disconnected with your spouse. This makes everything harder. This chapter helps you put your marriage in the place it belongs and keep God at the center of it.

Tying Their Shoes

Additional chapters help you see God through in the difficulties of each step in parenting. The chapters include:

The Lord is My Shepherd – Labor and Delivery
Be Prepared to go Home
Accomplish the Goal in Parenting
Work Together – Not Against Each Other
Stewardship of Sleep, Money, and the Heart
The Blessings of Parenting
Dad’s Involvement
All I Want Is “Me Time”
Sexual Intimacy as a New Parent
Learning to Teach and Discipline
Cast Your Cares on God
The advice that comes through each of these chapters is practical, honest, and centered on God. Not everything in the book is something that will resonate with every reader. But there is much good. So take the things that will help you and don’t worry about the rest. While the Greens try hard to focus on what God has told us in the Bible with their advice, this is not God’s word and we don’t need to treat it as such. So, take what you can use and move on. Don’t worry about the rest. It may come in handy at a later date and it may not. But I found there to be much good advice in here.

If you are looking for a Christ-centered parenting book that is not the same old, same old, this is it. Take a good look at Tying Their Shoes by Rob and Stephanie Green.
Posted by Lori H on 10th Jun 2019

This Should Be On Every Parent's Bookshelf

Welcoming in a new child to a family is a life-changing event that is fraught with a whole range of emotions — excitement, fear, anxiety, and thankfulness, just to name a few. As new parents expecting your first child (or even your second or third child), what are you to expect? What changes should you be prepared for? How will this new addition to your family change the dynamics of your marriage and your home life? How will you keep everything balanced? All of these are important questions. Then you have a whole host of practical considerations — epidural or not, MD or midwife, hospital or home, nursing or bottle. And of course, ask ten different people and you’re bound to get ten different opinions. It can all be a bit overwhelming for any parent. Is there any Biblical advice for new parents out there?

Pre-Parenting Counseling?

As Christians, many of us see the value and importance of pre-marital counseling. We understand that in this new marriage, a young man and young woman are entering into a brand new phase of their life, and there are many things that need to be discussed and that they need to receive godly, biblical input on in order to enter into their marriage prepared for the long-haul. If that is the case for marriage, shouldn’t that be a similar case for parenting? Yet, in my experience, no such pre-parenting counseling exists. Sure, there are countless resources out there that help new parents think through things like sleep training and discipline and nursing and so forth. But what about a resource that helps Christian parents prepare themselves in a godly, Bible-centered way for the changes that are coming with the addition of this child to the family?

A New Book

A new book that helps meet this need is by Rob and Stephanie Green, titled Tying Their Shoes: A Christ-Centered Approach to Preparing for Parenting. In the introduction, the Green’s explain how, when they were searching for resources several years ago when they had their third child, they were able to find resources like I mentioned above. But what was lacking was a resource like the one they have written here. They say:

“What we needed to prepare us for this transition from the two of us to the three of us was something far more than a guide to pregnancy and a plan to survive infancy (although both were helpful). We needed to understand how God’s grace was going to help us every step of the way. We needed to see God’s grace in the days when everything was going according to plan. And we needed to see God’s grace when the day was crashing” (3).

What follows in the rest of this book is an incredibly practical and helpful Christ-Centered guide to new parents on preparing for parenting. Over the course of 13 chapters, Rob and Stephanie Green provide the reader with Biblical wisdom, personal stories, pastoral comfort and guidance, and general wisdom for any parent, whether preparing for their first or their seventh child. Throughout the chapters the Green’s focus on several key themes, including the primacy of marriage over parenting, the crucial reminder of our identity in Christ over everything else, the value of both the mother and father working together by serving and helping one another, and the general heart posture of leaning on God and His wisdom, guidance, care, and comfort in all things, from the most trivial and mundane to the most heart-wrenching, trying times of parenting. Below are the thirteen chapters that are included in the book.

1. Identity in Christ and Parenting
2. Help Your New Baby by Prioritizing Your Marriage
3. The Lord is My Shepherd — Labor and Delivery
4. Be Prepared to Go Home
5. Accomplish the Goal in Parenting
6. Work Together — Not Against — Each Other
7. Stewardship of Sleep, Money, and the Heart
8. The Blessings of Parenting
9. Dad’s Involvement
10. All I Want Is “Me Time”
11. Sexual Intimacy as a New Parent
12. Learning to Teach and Discipline
13. Cast Your Cares on God

Conclusion

As a parent of two, with our youngest having just turned one and our oldest almost four, I was greatly helped by this book even now. But I absolutely wish that I had this book four or five years ago when we were preparing for the birth of our firstborn, or even a year or so ago as we prepared for our second. Parenting is an incredible joy and privilege, but it is also hard work. I would strongly encourage any couple — whether parents or not — to get a copy of this book and work through it together as a couple. I would doubly encourage any couple that is expecting a child to grab a copy immediately and work through this book. From the biblical wisdom to the personal stories, you will find this to be an incredibly readable book, but more important, an incredibly Christ-Centered and Biblical book. I would strongly recommend this book be on the shelf of every Christian parent.

In accordance with FTC regulations I would like to thank New Growth Press for providing me with a review copy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review.
Posted by Zack Ford on 11th Apr 2019

Additional info

Weight: 0.75 LBS
Width: 6.00
Height: 9.00
Depth: 0.65
Author: Rob Green and Stephanie Green
ISBN-13: 978-1-948130-61-5
Publication Date: February 11, 2019
Format: Paperback
Page Count: 176
Read a Sample: https://newgrowthpress.com/content/Samples/Tying-Their-Shoes-Sample.pdf